Second Dress or Not?

I'm seriously debating whether to get a second dress to wear at the reception (after the first dance and all).  I hadn't originally planned on changing - it's tradition in modern Chinese weddings for the bride to have up to five dresses - but the more I think about it, the more I think that I should have a party dress for dancing later on in the evening, something easier to move around in.  There are plenty of affordable white dresses on J.Crew's website...

What do you think?

Accomodating Kids

There are a handful of kids under 12 coming to the wedding. All are children of relatives or very close friends. Because our meal choices are decidedly grown-up (steak, salmon or risotto), we have a special menu for the young ones. It's interesting kind of choices are available - burgers, chicken fingers, hot dogs, pizza and pasta. Kid friendly, but not all that healthy, either.

For us, it was pretty easy to decide on the kids' choice - pasta.  We decided on that because of the varying ages of the kids.  The youngest who'll be eating a regular meal is two, while the oldest is five.  Pasta is something that a very young child would eat.  Also, the pasta is more "grown-up" than the other choices!

Half the RSVPs are in, but....

...what bugs me the most are those who call and say that they're going to come without either RSVPing on our website or sending in their response card.  Personally, I don't consider verbal confirmations official.  As we have meal choices, paper or electronic confirmation is very important.  What bugs me even more are third party confirmations - when someone tells me that another invitee is coming, without the actual invitee contacting us directly.  I won't mark down anyone as officially coming unless they contact me themselves.  However, regrets through third party contacts are acceptable (though not ideal).

I realize that some of this might be cultural - I've had more RSVP issues on my side than from my fiance's.  It *IS* tough to be the first generation born in Canada.  Even if your parents and close relatives get you, it doesn't mean that more distant relatives do - especially if they don't live here.  They'll just continue to do things they consider is proper etiquette.